1) No visitors allowed after 8 p.m. on weekdays/school days.
(Visitation before 8 p.m. should only be in regard to consultation/discussion on school matters or others of REAL URGENCY.
However, visitors may be allowed on weekends, until 10 p.m. only.
2) No sleep overs/hanging outs in other units or in friends’ homes.
3) Be at the condo not later than 30 minutes after your last class, unless school concerns compel you to stay longer.
4) No partying/late night outs unless it is an OFFICIAL SCHOOL AFFAIR, or with permission from parents.
5) NO DRINKING, SMOKING, DRUGS and SEX.
You can only have alcoholic drinks during your beverage tasting for your Food and Beverage subject in school.
I posted these rules last Monday at my daughter’s condo unit, to which, of course, her flatmates’ parents concurred.
I say no more. The rules are explicit. Non compliance by my daughter means the end of her college life in the city.
I am a super loving mom to a fault. I am so soft hearted and I give in to my children’s wishes most of the time. BUT THERE ARE INSTANCES WHEN I REALLY HAVE TO USE THE IRON HAND.
It is still a mother’s love. And I know your daughter knows that. Iba talagang mag-alaga at magmahal ang nanay.
salamat sa pagdaan.
ha ha ha. Oh mother dear.
I guess you need to add one more. You must at all times keep your cell phone battery charged. You must answer my call or reply my text message ASAP. Low bat is therefore NOT an acceptable excuse.
I could imagine my wife’s situation when all my kids decided to live on their own. Ang siste, nahihirapan sya to know if the rules she set are being followed kasi la naman sya big brother cameras. So, ang nangyari, weekend house na lang ang bahay namin.
Ngayon, relax na ang rules, tawag na lang pwede na. ha ha ha.
LAR, it’s for her own good, di ba?
Mandaya, I enjoy reading your entries. I visit your site every now and then, especially when I need a good laugh… hehehe.
Thanks for the visit too.
Myepinoy… naku, ha. I mean business in each and every rule above. Walang excuse-excuse sa akin. And even if I don’t have a Big Brother’s camera, I have a way of knowing what goes on with her little world in Manila … but sorry, I can’t share it here… it’s top secret. hehehe.
A niece in NY, after having gone away for college, came back with an alarming penchant for alcoholic drinks. She was a very “good girl” until high school, but college somewhat changed her.
Alcoholism has become a major problem in US college campuses due, for the most part, to the great deal of stress involved in pursuing their studies.
Instead of getting on her case about it, my other brother and I frequently took her out to dinner and weekend trips to help her talked things out in a non-judgmental manner.
My niece turned out all right. She has gone on to graduate school as well and finished it without a hitch, and soon thereafter got married to the love of her life — a full scholar Harvard Medical School graduate.
Eric, good thing for your niece that she turned out all right! And with a graduate school diploma at that, with a Harvard scholar for a hubby too.
What I worry about most, Eric, is not alcoholism per se, but the things that drinking or drunkenness can result to; the most dreadful of which - are drugs and sex.
Nabigla ako dun sa rules hehe..
something happened Tita?
Mica, not really that serious. But the rules are meant just to “nip it in the bud” so to speak.
Wow! They got a better life in the seminary!
Just kidding.
You are right. There is a time when you should focus on your studies.
There is enough time for DRINKING, SMOKING, DRUGS and SEX after college life. ;-).
You’re the man sis; If my kids would become teenagers in a few years from now, I’d have the same rules for them as you have. Right now, the rules are merely on computer use and study time.
SIDNEY! Are you back? Man, good to see you!
Now, are these rules that strict? They’re lucky I did not impose on NO TV rule… hehehe.
Welcome back! Looking forward to your beautiful photos of Belgium.
Major Tom, it’s more difficult to raise teenage girls. I did not have to go through this agony before with my two older boys. But anyway, my daughter has my trust, though she better take good care of it, because I really mean business here.
Spoken and done like a true mom ! I congratulate you for your guts and speaking with the other parents
Now you just need a detective to verify that the house rules are being followed hehe:)
Albeit you’ve to use your iron hand, I’m sure your daughter will understand that you want the best for her, di ba?
My parents’ use their iron hands too, when needed to control my younger siblings. I’ve earned their trust as I do consult them before doing something. We all learn, I guess.
Nung di pa ako nanay, di ko naiintindihan ang “rules” or should I say “ayokong intindihin”. Now, that I’m a mother, alam ko na…. Mother knows best!
I had a few young girls at work (students part timers) that confessed being grounded for breaking their parents ground rules, but that’s life, I’ve told them.
Well, it’s quite different in our situation here, youths can’t just wait to go to college to do whatever they want, some turn out alright, some just can’t get over the temptations of too much fun in post secondary where they have to be away from home..Drinking is the numero uno, plus drugs, sex among lovers is just about as normal as their college programs. But with affordable education and available student’s loans most manage to go through all these obstacle along the way and they are the future…
BW! No need for a detective. hehehe. I now make it a point to stay in Manila at least for three days in a week.
Kyels! Lucky your parents for having a daughter like you. You deserve their trust as you did earn it well.
Mitch, hay naku, that is what I always tell my kids. “Balang araw, kapag mga magulang na rin kayo, maiintindihan ninyo kung bakit namin kayo pinapangaralan ng ganito.”
Wait - I heard the same line from my parents too when I was still single. Ah, life is indeed a circle.
Vic, that’s the problem when the young ones leave home for college. They feel that sense of freedom and independence that they did not have before when living with their parents. So, as a result, they go for it - taste life, so to speak.
Since we are here in the Philippines, I always remind my daughter that the opportunity given to her now to study in a prestigious school may not come again anymore, if she screws things up. Ah, sometimes, parents need to be really stern.
Thanks for sharing again, Vic.
your children ought to be thankful that they have such a caring and loving mom. they are lucky to have you, rhodora.
Thank you for the kind words, Gita. And thanks for the visit too.
rules are good to maintain order and as a mother too, I wouldn’t mind borrowing some of your rules when my two boys are a bit older….
Pining, my set of rules is a “take it or leave it” bargain. It’s either the kids follow or not. If they follow, good for them. If not, then they have to face and live with the consequences.
Girls are more difficult to bring up than boys, Pining.
Wow! hahaha…andami namang rules. Seriously speaking, ako rin yata magiging ganyan ka-strict dahil sa dami ng teen-agers na napapariwara ng maaga pa lang. I’m sure your kids will understand.
rules. rules. rules.
i’m currently drafting tons of new policies here in the office to be submitted to mgmt soon. i foresee another compliance audit so i better be ready
I am so keeping this to use for my daughter when she goes to college. I concur!
“I am a super loving mom to a fault. I am so soft hearted and I give in to my children’s wishes most of the time. BUT THERE ARE INSTANCES WHEN I REALLY HAVE TO USE THE IRON HAND.” -I am so like you!
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Ladybug, how truly said! And the sad thing also is that many parents are so busy with work that they fail to monitor their children’s activities.
Tutubi, good luck with those rules. Hope they are complied with diligently. Come to think of it - without rules, what chaos this world will be in!
Liza, don’t moms agree on most issues about their children? Really, kids must even appreciate it when we become strict with them, because it is for their own good.
Thanks for the visit, Liza.
Gem, is your DSL already connected?
Please limit your surfing time, anak. And don’t stay up too late. Yes, I have checked out the site and will show it to papa when he comes home. I’m sure he will be glad to find this out.
I love you too baby. Mwah!
Hi rhodora!
I am imagining myself when my kids go to college. I hope they won’t have to study far so there will be no need for boarding.
Now let’s hope they don’t find that spy cam! Joke! haha
Thank God I didn’t have those rules back in college…hehe just kidding Tita
Weekends were spent at home but my college life was practically spent in a dormitory where we had a monster landlady. My parents especially my father would tell me once a year about his rules and that’s it. I guess if it was different, like him telling me everyday not to do this and not to do that, I still wouldn’t mind. Not that I’m an angel, but magloko in school and out was like the last thing on my mind during college. If you show your parents you can be trusted, rules are not needed IMO
Yikes!! Reminds me of the kind of rules I had to comply with back in the day…
Phone calls only until 11pm!!
I posted a comment earlier and got a message that it was sent to your spam folder. Hmm….
Anyway, I said this post reminded me of the kind of rules I had to comply with way, way back
Chateau! You have two girls, right?
Spy cam will be going way too far! hahaha! They are good kids, by the way, only that they need to be reminded sometimes. You know - peer pressure and influence can get in the way, and we are not with our kids 24/7.
Thanks for the visit, Chats! Hope to be able to have EB with you too, one day.
Verns, I could tell you were a very diligent student then, weren’t you?
And ah - trust is earned. And I’m sure during your schooling time, you did not do anything that would make your parents stir in their seats. hehehe.
But nowadays - it’s a totally different story na. Blame it on media influence.
Kongkong, it’s okay - I got your comment anyway. That is how lousy my comment system is.. hehehe.
Oh, so you remember those rules, huh. Phone calls until 11 pm? Now, that, to me is too late already! LOL!
Thanks for the visit, Kongkong!
Hi Rhodora. Sorry I haven’t visited for quite a while. I look forward to catch up with your posts.
Bravo! I’m impressed that you posted those rules. I think in this day and age parents should really be more open and straightforward as possible. It’s not enough to assume that children know what is good from what is bad. We should still make it a point to remind them.
Hi, Rach! It’s okay, we often get caught with our duties, di ba?
Hehehe, I posted these rules here to share with fellow parents out there. Hirap magpalaki ng teenage child.. lalo na pag girl! And yes, you are right - we need to remind them as we can never assume they always know what is best for them.
Oh, your daughter is so lucky! She gets to live in a condo in college. I wish I could have done that… I wouldn’t have minded the rules at all.
Toe, yan na ang uso ngayon. Well, there are very affordable units now, actually. I heard one ad on radio offering condo units for as low as P9k a month.
akala ko hospital hehehehehe
rhodes,
i have same predicament, too. ahh, i didn’t know that is tough to raise teenage girls - more on my younger daughter. i don’t mind borrowing your rules but am not sure if she will comply with it. dito kasi sa US, once they reach 18, they can legally be on their own and i don’t want it to happen as they don’t know much about life and how to survive in this tough world.
No sex, drugs or alcohol? But but but…
Just kidding
I’m from UPLB & most alumni would say they will never send their daughters there. Because in the campus students rule & it was such a ride. At the end of the day, it’s down to the individuals if they’re going to play, to look or get hooked.
Build on trust & make sure your communication lines are always open. Being away from home can be exciting & terrifying. Yup you already know that.